Autism is a lifelong developmental disability that affects how a person communicates with, and relates to, other people. It also affects how they make sense of the world around them.
It is a spectrum condition, which means that, while all people with autism share certain difficulties, their condition will affect them in different ways. Some people with autism are able to live relatively independent lives but others may have accompanying learning disabilities and need a lifetime of specialist support. People with autism may also experience over- or under-sensitivity to sounds, touch, tastes, smells, light or colours.
Recently I have being talking to my cousin. Her beautiful daughter has Autism and I am always wondering what life is like in her cute little head. What does she struggle with?, Why does she cry at what we see as bizarre things?, why doesn’t she like socialising with other children? So I went on a hunt for some information because I wanted to be able to help my cousin and her gorgeous girl with anything they need.
I didn’t know how to set this blog up, so I thought how about a letter to them? But first, a quick bit of information about Autism. (obviously these are but a few- I encourage you to find out more at autism.org.uk)
- People w/ autism will often learn a lot about a topic they’re fascinated with & be perceived as experts
- Fascinations, repetitive behaviour & routines can be a source of enjoyment for people with autism
- Special interests may provide structure & predictability to people w/ autism, helping them cope with uncertainties of daily life
- People w/ autism who find social interaction difficult may use their special interests to start conversations & feel relaxed
- Mothers across the world dedicate their lives to supporting and caring for loved ones with autism
- Special interests of people with autism can improve self-esteem, encourage socialising & develop skills
So here goes.
Hey little girl- I wish I could hear the way you hear. Those sirens must be scary. What do you need us to do? I hope you know, and understand how much your mummy loves you. She does so much for you. She is most likely your guardian angel. You know the little boy you like to play with? Your little brother? He loves you too. When you’re both older he’ll always look out for you just like your mummy does. Not only that, but they will both love you unconditionally. I pray and wish that you have a beautiful life and that you get to see the wonderful world in your own way.
Cousin of mine, please carry on. You smile so much and hold her so close. You do what many people could not even have the wildest thoughts of. You understand and help your daughter who every day struggles with things we would not even imagine. I know it gets tough for you sometimes, and I know you don’t always feel like you have the help and support you need. But for what it’s worth I’ll always be here. Even if it is just for a little ramble. I don’t mind.
To put it simply, you both inspire me. She must struggle so much to not be able to quite understand what is happening, to not know how to deal with certain emotions, to become completely overwhelmed by sounds, sights, and smells.
Let’s not forget what you do as her mother; you not only raise her and help with everything that happens day to day (the most likely unpredictable day to day life), you also raise an adorable little boy too. You don’t do it half-assed either. You go full MOTHER. You tackle every issue head on, you always look beautiful (seriously don’t know how you can still look so good with such little time on your hands), and you always fight any criticism you or your family may face.
I know this might not mean much to either of you, but I just hope you know how much I love you both. I will always be here to help you with anything (even though I don’t live so close). You are both amazing, and I hope that one day everything…just clicks.
If anyone has made it to the bottom of the blog I would just like to say that Autism shouldn’t be seen as a negative- although it may be hard to deal with at times, they are people too. They deserve the same treatment as anyone, they deserve to be able to play where they want, learn what they want, love who they want, listen to what they want, and even more than anything- they deserve to be loved unconditionally like anyone else.
I love you guys.